(Kaori late 20s female married to Swedish man):
A: We start in English, our common language. But on occasion the fight gets really heated and we usually switch to our native languages, with me shouting and swearing in Japanese and him doing the same in Swedish! We always kiss and make up though…
A: We were in Sweden when the child was born. In Sweden, there is more equality between the sexes. For example, he was able to take ‘paternity leave’ and stay at home to help me with the baby. He had no problem changing diapers and bathing our child… He was very helpful!
A: One thing you have to remember is that when people get old, they often long for their home. If you are married to a foreign guy you must realise that one of you will end your life in a different country. This is not an issue if you are marrying a Japanese. As for the relationship, I really think the key is to respect your partner’s culture and language, and give him respect. And expect the same!
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